Deliberate self harm is not necessarily a suicide attempt, and engaging in self harm may not mean that someone wants to die. Most commonly, deliberate self harm is a behavior that is used to cope with difficult or painful feelings. However if you are worried that someone you know may be feeling suicidal or has attempted to take their own life, you may wish to talk to someone about it .
Samaritans UK are very experienced and will listen to any concerns you have.
Helpline 1: 08457 90 90 90
If there’s something troubling you, then get in touch. We’re here 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. If you need a response immediately, it’s best to call us on the phone. (call charges apply).
There is also a whole host of information on the Worldwide Befrienders Website
Here is their advice on warning signs
Suicide is rarely a spur of the moment decision. In the days and hours before people kill themselves, there are usually clues and warning signs.
The strongest and most disturbing signs are verbal- “I can’t go on,” “Nothing matters any more” or even “I’m thinking of ending it all.” Such remarks should always be taken seriously.
Other common warning signs include:
- Becoming depressed or withdrawn
- Behaving recklessly
- Getting affairs in order and giving away valued possessions
- Showing a marked change in behavior, attitudes or appearance
- Abusing drugs or alcohol
- Suffering a major loss or life change
The following list gives more examples, all of which can be signs that somebody is contemplating suicide. Of course, in most cases these situations do not lead to suicide. But, generally, the more signs a person displays, the higher the risk of suicide.
- Family history of suicide or violence
- Sexual or physical abuse
- Death of a close friend or family member
- Divorce or separation, ending a relationship
- Failing academic performance, impending exams, exam results
- Job loss, problems at work
- Impending legal action
- Recent imprisonment or upcoming release
- Breaking the law
- Writing about death and suicide
- Previous suicidal behavior
- Extremes of behavior
- Changes in behavior
- Lack of energy
- Disturbed sleep patterns – sleeping too much or too little
- Loss of appetite
- Sudden weight gain or loss
- Increase in minor illnesses
- Change of sexual interest
- Sudden change in appearance
- Lack of interest in appearance
Thoughts and Emotions
- Thoughts of suicide
- Loneliness – lack of support from family and friends
- Rejection, feeling marginalized
- Deep sadness or guilt
- Unable to see beyond a narrow focus
- Anxiety and stress
- Loss of self-worth