How to Talk To Your Self-Harming Child

It’s not always easy to talk to your child about self-harm but here are a few words of advice for when that moment comes…. 

  • Honesty and compassion are the important first responses.
  • Don’t expect your child to accept what you say or listen to you
  • Don’t expect them to acknowledge their problem.
  • Let them know you are concerned.
  • Assure them that you’re there for them.
  • Don’t judge.
  • Don’t tell them you understand, the chances are, you don’t.
  • Be prepared to listen and act when they do ask for your input.
  • Seek professional help and advice. Some young people appreciate a mentor of their own age or just a bit older.
  • Treat anything you are told  in confidence.
  • Ensure their safety. For example, you can’t stop them cutting themselves but you can supply dressings and offer to help clean their wounds.
  • Find a Friend for yourself.
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One Response to How to Talk To Your Self-Harming Child

  1. Anonymous says:

    I have two teenage daughters. For a while we have had “talking time” This is a time that we set aside (it’s at 10pm in our house) so we can talk about anything we want to, together, or listen to some music, whatever we feel like doing at the time. Talking Time NEVER gets cancelled, sometimes the time has to move because they are out. Both my girls say that Talking Time has helped them make sense of all that goes on in their world.


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