Key messages for building resilience
You can build up resilience by communicating some key messages to your child
- Life is mainly good, but now and then everyone has a difficult or unhappy time. This is normal.
- Things nearly always get better, even though they might take a bit longer than you’d like. Stay hopeful and work on the problem if you can.
- You’ll feel better and have more ideas about what you can do if you talk to someone you trust about what’s worrying or upsetting you.
- No-one’s perfect. We all make mistakes. We all find out there are some things we can’t do so well.
- If you can find something positive or funny in a difficult situation, no matter how small, it can help you cope better.
- Take fair responsibility for what you did or didn’t do to cause a difficult or unhappy situation. But don’t over-blame yourself – circumstances, bad luck or other people all played a part too.
- If something can’t be changed, you just have to accept it and live with it. Don’t make yourself miserable by making it worse or by assuming that the worst possible scenario is the one that will happen.
- When something goes wrong, it will usually only affect one part of your life. When this happens, focus more on the things in your life that are still going well.
- Everyone gets scared sometimes, but not always about the same things. Facing your fears can help you grow stronger.
- Don’t let yourself be ‘hijacked’ by your feelings. Find a way to calm yourself down so you can think of the best way to deal with how you’re feeling.