This article was written by a lady who I have shared my heart with a few times now. My own daughter was adopted and went through terrible trauma in her adolescent years. Eventually she was given post-adoption counselling and, with the help of an amazingly gifted young lady, she discovered a lot about her birth family. It is a mystery really that inside every young person there is a Human Being desperately trying to understand who they are- genetically and spiritually. We must help our children in any way we can to find their true selves.
For me , I had to let my daughter explore a ‘world’ I had taken her away from – a world of mental health issues, of promiscuity, of abuse. If frightened me and I wondered if she could cope with the truth but I soon realised that when a young person feels that secrets are being kept from them, or situations denied them, fear and insecurity takes them over. For my daughter, the fear of unknown secret things was too heavy a burden to carry. When she discovered some uncomfortable truths about her birth family, she admitted to being shocked and upset but actually her self-harming diminished and her self respect started to blossom.
It is a mystery how something uncomfortable can bring freedom, but that’s the power of truth for you!
Never be afraid of an adolescent’s search for identity….it is a search for truth …and truth brings freedom .
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